♡ A note from Gemma
As a mum myself, I know that preparing for your daughter's first period can bring excitement, questions and sometimes a little uncertainty too. I created the with you Journal to share gentle advice and practical guidance that I hope helps make this milestone feel a little less daunting-for both of you.
Watching your daughter grow up can bring so many exciting milestones, but one that often leaves parents wondering is…
"How will I know when her first period is getting close?"
The truth is that every girl is different. Some notice lots of changes, while others hardly notice any at all. There isn't one exact sign that means her first period will arrive tomorrow, but there are some common changes that can suggest her body is preparing.
Knowing what to look for can help you feel ready to support her when the time comes.
1. Breast development
For many girls, breast development is one of the earliest signs of puberty.
A girl's first period usually starts around two to three years after breast development begins, although this varies from person to person.
2. A growth spurt
Has your daughter suddenly needed new school shoes, longer trousers or a bigger school uniform?
Many girls experience a noticeable growth spurt before their first period.
3. Body hair begins to grow
Hair under the arms and around the pubic area is another completely normal sign that puberty is progressing.
This doesn't mean her period is imminent, but it does suggest her body is developing.
4. Vaginal discharge
One of the clearest signs that a first period may be approaching is the appearance of a clear or white discharge in her underwear.
This is completely normal and simply shows that her body is producing natural fluids to keep the vagina healthy.
For many girls, this can begin around six months to a year before their first period, although everyone's timeline is different.
5. Changes in mood
As hormones change, your daughter may become more emotional than usual.
She might seem:
- More sensitive
- Easily upset
- Irritable
- Quieter than normal
These feelings are completely normal and often come and go.
6. Skin changes
Some girls notice oily skin or small spots before their periods begin.
This is simply another effect of changing hormones.
7. Wondering and asking questions
Sometimes the biggest clue isn't physical at all.
Your daughter may start asking questions about periods because friends have started theirs or they've learned about puberty at school.
This is a wonderful opportunity to begin open, relaxed conversations and reassure her that every girl develops at her own pace.
Every girl is different ♡
Some girls begin their periods at nine years old, while others don't start until they're fifteen.
All of these can be completely normal.
The most important thing isn't trying to predict the exact day - it's making sure your daughter feels prepared whenever it happens.
Knowing that she has the essentials ready, understands what's happening to her body and knows she can talk to you can make all the difference.
Helping her feel prepared
Preparing for a first period doesn't have to feel overwhelming.
Many parents find it helpful to have a small pouch ready with a few essentials, so if her period starts at school, on holiday or while she's out with friends, she knows exactly what to do.
That's exactly why I created with you.
Inspired by my own daughter, Matilda, I wanted to create something that helps girls feel prepared, reassured and supported - not just with practical essentials, but with gentle encouragement too.
If you're looking for a ready-made first period kit, our with you starter pack has everything covered — shop here.